How to Ask Someone If They Are Okay
Launch library · evergreen read
Asking someone how they are doing sounds simple, yet the moment before we ask can feel heavy with uncertainty. We worry about saying the wrong thing, so we say nothing at all. The truth is that a plain, direct question, asked with warmth and without an agenda, is often the doorway that matters most.
There is no perfect script. Choosing a quiet moment, sitting rather than standing, and asking without checking your phone all send the message that you are genuinely listening. If the first answer is a shrug, that is alright. Sometimes people need to hear the question more than once before they feel ready to answer it honestly.
You do not need to have the right response prepared, only the willingness to stay present. If a conversation ever touches on real distress, gently mention that help exists. Lifeline is available any hour of the day or night on 13 11 14, and the Suicide Call Back Service can be reached on 1300 659 467.